Lasting Change

What do you need to do when you want change in your life? You take action.

Whatever it is you’re after – you have to take action in order to get the changes you want in your life. Otherwise, things will not change. Worse yet – others may take action, and change things for you.

Human willpower is not very strong. As much as we romanticise successful people as people with iron wills equivalent to 10 monks, plowing through adversity at all costs – this is simply untrue.

What is true, however, is that most successful people employ a set of strategies to keep them on the right track at all times. Now, wouldn’t it be great if we all knew what these blueprints were, and could implement them into our own lives?

As a matter of fact, we can.

Human willpower, on its own, is not strong. Willpower from a human collective, however, is very strong. If you smoke, how many of you smoked because your friends did? How many of you drink because your friends drink? How many of you smoke or drink “socially?” Whether or not you realise it, these are all forms of peer pressure – and examples of you bowing down not to your own willpower, but to the collective willpower of your friends.

More to the point – how many of you started drinking, or smoking – despite knowing that these are bad habits harmful to your death? Not only do these habits suck you of your health – but they suck you of your money too. Not only did the collective willpower of your friends affect you – but they overpowered your own willpower, AND affected you.

Get a piece of paper this very moment, and write down how many habits you and your friends have in common. I bet there are more than a few. Now put an asterisk to the ones that you do together. This list is living proof that you have kept one another true to these very habits.

Now write down a list of the new habits you want to last into the future. In fact, list a list of people who have these habits you desire.

Now go and make friends with them, and watch in awe as they infect you with their contagious habits through sheer force of collective willpower.

Blueprints of Success

In today’s world, information is in abundance. Never before has information been so readily accessible, and never before has connectivity between people and ideas been so developed.

In my many years of coaching and training – one question that I get asked is, “How do I do it?”

For many of my participants, that is the missing ingredient within their framework. I have a lot of participants who have a very clear vision of what they want, have the correct mindset and are willing to put in the hard yards. But they don’t know how to do it.

I’m not a man of all trades. I don’t have all the answers, and when it comes to very specific goals, I probably don’t have the answer, unless I’ve done it before myself.

If you were to give a cook – or even any person – a recipe and all the requisite ingredients, and he were to carry out the steps in it, to perfection, would you end up with the same end result as the celebrity chef who wrote it? Yes, you would. If you were to provide someone with flat-pack furniture and the exact assembly steps – would you get the same end product? Yes again.

Whatever it is you want to do – whether it’s to start a specific business idea, or to be rich, or be healthy – someone else has already done it.

All you have to do – is find out what those people did in the past. The specific steps that they took, in order to reach the goal you’re now after. Find their blueprints – and follow them to the letter.

It really is that simple. You can look for a mentor, you can read an interview they did, you can read their autobiographies – it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that you find that blueprint. And when you do, make sure you follow through.

God bless.

Thoughts and lessons from the desk of Coach Ray